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Small Fry, Large Fry

Small Fry, Large Fry

“You wouldn’t order a steak if it was nothing but bone, so why would you want a woman that way?”

Phrases like this one have been plaguing social media lately. And, as a whopping five feet two inches tall and 103 pounds, I find these remarks offensive.

But it’s nothing new to me. People make fun and joke about my size all the time. Last year, a teacher told me in front of the entire class that I looked like I starved myself. At first, I laughed it off, but after a while, the comment really got to me. Yes, professor, I’m well aware that I have the physique of a 12-year-old boy.

And in case you’re wondering, no, I don’t starve myself. In fact, my mom calls me her personal garbage disposal. I surprise people when we eat together and they see how much food I can scarf down (and no, I don’t throw it up later, either).
I’ve been called a “skinny bitch” in jest, and in elementary school, a girl who didn’t like the fact that I was scrawny said she hoped I would grow up to live as an obese woman with 12 children in a shack – a pretty elaborate hate story for a fourth grader.

So, my question is – why is it okay for us to tell a thin person that they look like they “need to eat a sandwich,” but it’s not okay to tell a larger person that they need to eat fewer sandwiches? Neither of the comments should be acceptable. Natural body types come in all shapes and sizes, not just curvy, and not stick thin, either. Real women have real bodies, not a cookie cutter shape.

We are so used to society telling us that skinny is beautiful, that we may not realize that jokes about being too skinny hurt – and are inappropriate. As a whole, we have simply become obsessed with telling each other how we should look.
We applaud actresses like Jennifer Lawrence for telling us that we should be able to eat whatever we want and still feel beautiful, and this is true. But it’s comments like this one – “I’d rather look chubby on screen and like a person in real life” – that contradict her own message.

The fact is that all body types should be celebrated – a person born with a smaller body frame shouldn’t be made to feel like they are unhealthy, just like someone who is larger shouldn’t have to feel that way.

In the words of my best friend, Katie, “There shouldn’t be any ‘classification’ for women….just that we are all beautiful,” and she’s exactly right.

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3 Responses to “Small Fry, Large Fry”

  1. Amanda Phillips on January 22nd, 2014 9:00 pm

    Susan, I attended Kapaun with you and never once thought that you were anything less than beautiful. You have a personality that leaves smiles everywhere you go and you are just as beautiful on the outside. I am glad that someone finally stood up and said something! I totally agree that no matter the size of the woman, every woman is beautiful and society should have no say in what is beauty and what isn’t. Personally, our society is ugly in the fact that it always looks for the worst in everyone and it tears people down instead of picking them up. If our society could see through your eyes, this world would be much better and love and peace would be spread, not hate and jealousy. Thank you for taking a stand and to not forget the less curvy women who get the opposite end of the “fat” jokes. No one should feel inadequate or segregated because of what they look like. The last time I checked, every snowflake is differently shaped and unique, yet no one calls one snowflake any less gorgeous than the one it is falling next too. I believe that women are the same way. So let’s fall in unique unison and standing up for each other, instead of tearing each other down in an attempt to make ourselves better. No stronghold can be built if we continue to break down the walls that have been built by strong women taking a stand, such as yourself.

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  2. Kate on January 22nd, 2014 11:08 pm

    I like this a lot. There’s an article I’ve seen floating around that isn’t necessarily well-written, but has some good points about Jennifer Lawrence’s stance on body acceptance:

    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/jenny-trout/jennifer-lawrence-body-shaming_b_4521379.html

    If she makes you feel better about yourself, I’m all for it. It’s great that she is getting people to think about these issues, but the fact is she is a beautiful girl that shouldn’t need to defend herself to the media. I think Aerie’s recent marketing campaign where they aren’t photoshopping their models does more for body acceptance than anything Jennifer Lawrence has said.

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  3. W. Arnold on January 22nd, 2014 11:26 pm

    Susie, I couldn’t agree more. With a wife who knows her caloric intake as well as her caloric burn-off it surprises me how many of our friends ask her if she eats. Or worse, says that she’s thin because she has allergies. All the while she can bench her own body weight, and can run miles further than “curvy girls.”

    Don’t get me wrong here, curvy girls are fine too, but if they’re fine than so are “stick” gals or thin gals who work out, push hard, and want to keep a slender physique.

    Priorities change from person to person. There isn’t one shape that fits all women/men. Let’s stop pretending there is one.

    Simply put: If you don’t like the way you look right now, go out there and fix it!!! I know my Susie Q will help you if you want!!!!!

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