Total GDI Move
I’m a GDI.
In the college world, this means that I am a “God Damn Independent” and made the personal choice of not going Greek It was a tough decision, but even the Greeks themselves will tell you, “Greek life is not for everyone.”
I am very involved on campus and usually, when you are over-involved, you are more than likely a Greek. Not me.
But I do have a lot of friends and work with a lot of students that are part of the Greek community, so I have learned about the stereotypes and the new phenomenon, Total Frat Move (TFM) and Total Sorority Move (TSM).
One day, I read an article from TSM about the new breed of sorority girls. These girls are supposedly ones that “GDIs respect” and the type that make “GDIs jealous.” My heart started becoming uneasy.
Another article I came across was about the “GDI Best Friend.” In the eyes of these Greeks, GDIs are “occasionally cool enough” to be in their group of friends, and “mostly normal, presentable and only slightly socially awkward.” We, as GDIs, “double” worship sorority girls and desire to fit in because we’re not as pretty, rich or popular as them. The article had one positive paragraph about us, claiming that we have our “shit” together (thanks?), but it was the ending line that really hurt my feelings – “See GDIs are good for something.”
According to this community, I should be seen as unattractive, unsuccessful and even worthless because I am not Greek. Working alongside so many Greeks, it is easy to feel a little self-conscious and wonder if they actually read these sites and think of me in that light.
Then again, I think of the success I’ve been able to accomplish regardless of not joining a sorority. I never want a GDI to feel the way I felt while reading those articles. I want you to know you can still be successful, even if you don’t wear letters.
Just as the Greek community wants negative stereotypes, such as the idea that all they do is party and have sex, to go away, I dream that the stigma that GDIs are not “cool” and are worthless will stop, too. GDIs respect the new kind of sorority girl. Here’s to hoping this respect will be mutual, even if I am a GDI.