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Blurred Consent

Blurred Consent

Robin Thicke’s “Blurred Lines” doesn’t make me laugh, though it seems to strike nearly everyone else differently.

A song that features lines like, “I know you want it” and, “You’re an animal, it’s in your nature” was the top-selling single for 2013. Hilarious.

The music video, which features scantily-clad women in shoes so strange and bulky they can hardly move, in contrast to the fully-dressed male singers is more than enough, but perhaps the most clear and powerful personification of the song’s message comes through in the first few seconds.

The video opens with Thicke – clothed – in bed with a nude woman. Thicke is pressing against her back, and she is expressing discomfort with her face and body language. However, just a blink later, it is the same woman who’s hugging Thicke’s back. Right there is the idea of “blurred lines.” Though the woman had been saying “no” before, she really wanted to say “yes.”

Apparently, the man knows better, regardless of what the woman has to say.

However, this idea didn’t start with “Blurred Lines.” One recent example comes from the close-to-home rape case of Daisy Coleman in Maryville, Mo. The young teen accused a high school senior of raping her and his friend of taping the assault. However, the charges were dropped and the case abandoned.

The case made the news again recently when Daisy was taken to the hospital after being bullied and harassed for making the claim – so much that she tried to commit suicide.

We treat assault victims like garbage, and we treat assault like a joke. Worse than a joke, we treat it like it doesn’t exist because “no” actually means “yes.” He knows better, after all, especially when a woman is dancing or drinking or wearing a low-cut dress.

The fact that “Blurred Lines” is so popular should scare you. Millions of people are overlooking its flippant disregard for a woman’s consent and opinion for the sake of a good dance beat. Or worse, they believe exactly what the song is telling them.

If not you’re scared, be outraged.

“No” is not ambiguous. When anyone uses it to draw a line, there’s nothing blurred about it.

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