Hannah H. Mug
In this era of information, one thing has slipped through the cracks: consent.
If you have followed the news, you have probably heard or seen at least one story of sex without consent. Consent is not something to joke about or to skip over. Consent, or lack thereof, can change the course of our lives.
Most people know the importance of consent for sexual relations. Consent covers more than that. We all have ideals of personal space, and it is angering when someone disrupts that.
Whether you are with a significant other or a stranger, you should ask for consent. Whether you want a quick hug or to be more intimate, consent is imperative. Consent does not need to be complicated; a simple question can do the trick.
Yes, it is awkward to stop for a second and ask the question, but it is necessary.
It may ruin the mood, especially when you know the other person well, but it will not ruin it for more than a second. Lack of consent could ruin one’s entire life.
The same is true for less intimate contact. For a simple kiss or hug, a question may not be necessary. A history of the relationship and strong eye contact could suffice, but asking will always be the safest way to receive consent.
Physical contact between strangers, even holding someone’s hand, is even more crucial. One reason that women, in particular, are afraid of being alone at times is because they can be taken advantage of.
We cannot take advantage of others. Close friends and strangers alike, we are all people. If you want to touch, kiss, hug or be intimate with someone, you must have consent. You might think asking for consent is unnecessary.
If you are with someone and you are both enjoying each other’s company, is that not enough?
No, it is not enough.
You would not force someone to eat their favorite food or their least favorite food. Nor should you assume someone is okay with physical contact, whether you are dating or are total strangers.